Comments on: Do you’re parents Accept you for being gay/bi?

By: animequeen567668

animequeen567668 — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 00:12:00 +0000

I’m pansexual and I am not out to my parents. My dad does not like gay people at all. I have a lot of gay friends and my dad has said some pretty mean things about them. So I am not out to them. My mom is okay about gay people, but I feel like if I tell her my dad will find out. I’ve got a good group of friends that I’m out to so for now my parents don’t need to know.

By: talkativenamichan

talkativenamichan — Sun, 11 Nov 2012 06:55:41 +0000

When i was in middle school, i came out to one friend, then this jerk found out and sprea it every where 75% of the school called me every name, tripped me, poured water down my back, spread i had hiv… It took 3 trips to the assistant princepals to get this one jerk to quit harrassing me. But it didnt change the fact half the school never accepted me. It wasnt until the princepal called my house and my step mom made me tell her. I said i was bi-sexual. The only people in my family that know are my father and step mom and older step sister.
Since i moved to another state, i have only told a few close friends(that accept me) but i will refuse to come out to everyone else in fear of the same Treatment. But my dad step mom and step sister accept it, i thought they wouldnt though, but its rarely spoken of.

By: CP

CP — Mon, 24 Sep 2012 02:09:07 +0000

When I told my mom, she was very accepting… but she still thinks it may be because I am young and hormonal. When I told my dad, he was also very accepting of it. Then again, it didn’t really come as a surprise to them at all I am so happy to have such an open minded family. BUT… my best friend’s family on the other hand… They don’t like bi/gays, so I know i will NOT tell her until I’m older… I just don’t like having to hide my attraction to girls … im not to good at that, let me tell you. My parents are the only ones who know, we are really close. To those of you that aren’t accepted by your parents, I wish you the best of luck and never give up because chances are, it will get better. Hugs, chey

By: BeTheRainbow

BeTheRainbow — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 02:53:48 +0000

My parents were in denial of it for a little while, they just didn’t believe that I would ever be bi I guess. They refused to talk to me, and after a month or so, turned it into some huge joke. So now it’s like my family is one big bully to me. It breaks my heart to know that not even my parents are trying to understand me, but I’m still proud of who I am and I never feel the need to change my sexiality just for my family’s peace of mind. But I do still wish that they would at least try to understand, because it’s hard not having the support of your family- hard, but not impossible.

By: Abby

Abby — Sat, 28 Jul 2012 15:00:36 +0000

I told my parents 2 months ago I was bi. I actually posted it on Facebook knowing they would see it. When they saw it they told me I had to pick one and they had no problem with gay or lesbians but just bisexual so I told everyone and I really don’t know where I stand with my parents

By: Destiny

Destiny — Sat, 05 May 2012 23:14:55 +0000

My parents really hate gays and when they found out I was gay the beat me they made my whole family turn their backs on me. That was when I was 17 at the time. Now I’m 20 and still living at home trying to hide who I am still I have a beautiful girlfriend who I love with all my heart and I still have to hide our relationship and it’s really stressful I just don’t know what to do it hurts to think I could lose my family but hurts even more to think I lose the girl I love the most… If someone could give me some advice it would be greatly appreciated.

By: RiceCakes

RiceCakes — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 05:12:59 +0000

I came out to my parents by “Force” Because there was this girl I was dating and she liked kisses and hugs so I would give her an occasional kiss and a hug around school campus (I’m in high school) so, then a couple of people didn’t really mind until like a friend of my sisters told me I was “sleeping” around with a girl (Which I did not) but then she told my mother and she got really upset, I really hate the fact that my parents have this kind of belief “Family if always first” And I ask myself, “How is my family my first priority even though they can’t accept and ignore the fact that I’m a lesbian?” So then, I really feel guilty now, because my mom and I have always been close now she acts that I’m not around. This whole gay thing is breaking my family apart

By: EmoRainbow99

EmoRainbow99 — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 07:17:35 +0000

Hi umm I well I don’t know if my dad will accept me because he says that it’s wrong to be gay or bi so I m not so sure if I should tell him but I need to I mean I cant hide it forever and another thing is I don’t know when to tell him and when I do what will happen. HELP ME. pwease.

By: Panda

Panda — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:00:38 +0000

Oh my gosh,I was looking online to try to find some help with this…. Honestly, my parents are Christian. They have lived a very happy life, as well as I have growing up in the church also. But as I started getting older I started realizing that I was starting to have feelings for girls… I never came out of the closet till a few weeks ago when I shared with with my parents. It was the hardest thing ever!!!!!!! & things are very very hard considering that they’re christian. But they don’t judge. I guess its my responsibility to give them time to understand & to accept me. I do encourage people to be christian because it is a wonderful wonderful expierience & its real… I guarantee that but simply is that I decided to live this lifestyle which I feel great. I have my girlfriend which is amazing!!! The most sweetest girl in the world that I truly want to spend the rest of my life with. But the problem is that I am still a minor & my parents told me not to talk to her & her padrents told her the same. So I have no wayy of communicating with her except thru email. But I surely have my ways of getting in touch with her. Like, occasionally, I’ll walk 3 miles to get to her house, its a bit tiring but so worth it since I get to spend time with the love of my life. So yeah:) Just be positive & don’t let hard problems bring you down because everything has a solution:) <3

By: Patrick

Patrick — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 14:41:27 +0000

Im 13, Bisexual, im in 2nd year now, ive been bisexual since 6th class.
my family always tell me that they would be okay with me being Gay, or Bi,
but when i wore Eyeline ( or guyliner ) this morning, my whole family laughed at me and called me queer and gay, im not sure if i could tell them or not?
my friends know im bi, and I know they accept me, some of my friends are bi and i have a complicated relationship with my best friend (boy) and when ever were at eachothers house we’d kiss, or..more… im just leave this comment to ask you all is it okay to tell my parents? X

By: Hinata

Hinata — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 03:25:46 +0000

My best friend is bi and she was scared to tell her mom cause her mom is super religious and thinks that being gay and bi are a sin or something like that. She finally told her mom and her mom was ok with it

By: Marin

Marin — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 22:37:47 +0000

I was bisexual for as long as I could remember, but I never knew that it was bisexuality till I was in my mid-twenties. I did come out to my parents a couple of weeks ago and my mom was super depressed, didn’t think it was the best thing for me, was concerned that being bisexual was going to be hard for me since I am hearing imapired. My mom cried for days, close to two weeks. She avoided me and was super mad at me. We finally had a talk and she asked me if I was bisexual still or straight. I couldn’t bear hurting my mom any longer and couldn’t stand how she acted so I said I was straight, even though I will and will always be bisexual. I have two great bisexual friends and they have been so amazing to me, so caring and so kind. I am so fortunate to have those kind of friends around and to have a support system even if it’s not my family or my closer friends. My advice is to keep your bisexuality to yourself because being bisexual is for you and only you. Your parents don’t have to know. It’s your right to keep it a secret or tell others. I am just hoping that you just keep in mind that others might not see it as a good thing, that others might think differently because you came out. I am just so lucky that I have friends that are so accepting and so loving and really understand. Good luck!

By: twilightaddict1

twilightaddict1 — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 13:04:10 +0000

I’m 16 and i’m bi but I havn’t told anyone that I am, I’m to scared of ammitting it to my mum and friends and to the rest of my family and I don’t know if they will accept me for who I am scared of people picking on me or saying stuff aswell and I just want someone to talk to about it or someone who is going through the same phrase as me.

By: Vero loves slash&yaoi

Vero loves slash&yaoi — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 22:58:35 +0000

I am 14 and I told my mom I was bi. She totally accepted me and said she doesn’t care, she loves me anyways. However, I don’t think she TRULY accepted me. You see, I am a HUGE Yaoi and Slash fangirl, I love alll that has to do with gay couples. ( I find them soo cute! ^_^) I read and even write fanfiction about it! But my mom, well she always says “doesn’t it get boring, writing about gay couples?” or “oh ya, that gay guy thing you read about” well that wasn’t so bothersome at first until last night. I was talking about this reaction video to Kurt and Blaine kissing on Glee, and how the entire family watching it started jumping up and down and I found it hilarious how they were screaming and dancing around. About an hour after I said that (it was during dinner) my mom called me out of my room and basically said “look I know your bi and everything but I think that you enjoy mentioning all these gay things to get attention and create a shock value” well, I was shocked!! Not just because my mom (whom I love dearly) would actually think that of me, but because she was ignorant enough to think that me liking yaoi and slash had anything to do with me being bi. At first I didn’t know what she was talking about actually, and I was like “what did I say?” and when she said “oh when you mentioned the family dancing around because of the Glee kiss” I felt like I was about to cry. I completely doubted everything I have ever said about gay couples, Slash, and yaoi. I spent nearly all night thinking about how ” does everyone else I know think that?” “Am I really doing it for attention?” and by the end of the night I was thinking ” So what? now I can’t like gay couples without trying to grab attention? when I mention heterosexual couples no one would think that!”

This morning I was even talking to my dad about it ( I haven’t told him I was bi but I am pretty sure he geussed it by now) and he was like “it doesn’t matter Vero” Knowing that he didn’t think that made me feel a lot better, and made me start thinking about how people are told that by being themselves they are only trying to get attention all the time. (anyone saw the homecoming episode of Glee? Kurt and his skirt?)
From this experience I learned that being myself will always bring good (I found that I love writing from creating fanfiction!) and bad ( read above), and strangely enough it also empowered me to embrace myself even more. I also learned that even the kindest of people can be ignorant without even knowing it.

So to anyone who has gone through similar (and the same) thing: BE YOURSELF!!!! DON”T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE IGNORANT!!!! LOVE YOURSELF AND YOU WILL BE FINE!!!

I hope you enjoyed reading my story!!

By: katie

katie — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 23:22:12 +0000

hey i’m bi and my family just doesnt want 2 believe it and think its just a freaking joke and i cant stand it but my bf accepts it and doesnt care if i date girls while im with him

By: MeMe's girl

MeMe's girl — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 15:18:16 +0000

Okay so, Im 17 and lesb. and I came out to my mum in family cousling and she said something like oh well i hate gay peopl! and it really made me mad and i said well what if i was gay? she kinda just look at me like what? and see my mom is a very STRONG christian and she is trying to tell me that its just a phase and my girlfriend is now my fiance and i love her so much that im moving in with her and family i dont think my mum will ever accept me.

By: anoymous

anoymous — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 01:20:49 +0000

im not confused im 12 year old boy who is bie ive had feelings a long time when i was 7 i kissed another boy when i was 10 i gave a boy a bj but i go on the computer alot to look at lesbians. i have not told my parents the only ppl who know r my 3 close freinds 1 is a girl n i try to feel her up my 2 close freinds who r boys i 1 time experimented with them i hav lots of freinds (ive got 1000 freinds on facebook) im not afraid to tell some of them im currently single but this girl likes me n like her but i hav wet dreams over a boy in my class hes got a gf but we hav sleep overs (this was the boy i kissed) everytime we got to bed we seem to get nearer evrytime time

By: Ash!

Ash! — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 23:21:22 +0000

Well, i’ve felt like i have been bi but until recently i’ve accepted the fact. and im sort of close to my parent so i just want to blurt it out to them but i know its not the right time cause i’m barely accepting it but im just scared what they’ll think of me they’re not homophobic well my mom is a little but i have this feeling that they’ll accept but im scared and nervous
oh and the whole crap about God not loving you if you’re gay, i don’t believe that because i saw a you tube vid of a guy that’s gay and he said, “why would God hate you for loving someone.” and that’s really true and nobody knows God better than God so if you’re scared cause of that, don’t be God loves everyone

By: kat

kat — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 02:13:26 +0000

and i plan to tell them that im bi (if i am)through cosplay and anime since they take me seriously in that topic

By: kat

kat — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 02:10:53 +0000

im 15 and im not quite sure if im bi or not but i have a boyfriend and we’ve been dating for like 4 or 5 months now and i think about both girls and guys and i have like 5 gay friends and 1 bi friend but most of my friends are straight so yea.Im not sure if i should come out to my parents but i plan to come out to my sister since she’s the one i can tell things too.but im not gonna tell her till i know for sure